So why is your relationship with your Mom so challenging?
There are a host of physical world reasons -
how she sees you
how she treats you
how she speaks to you
but those are not where we need to focus.
I'm interested in your Spiritual healing and growth. I'm interested in the answer to this:
What are you working on this lifetime?
What did you come here to learn & heal so that you could evolve as a conscious being?
That's where Core Life (Evolution) Lessons come into play.
I'll be going more in-depth with this information during my free Masterclass (find out more below) but here's the overview.
Why Is My Relationship With My Mom So Challenging?
At the root of all of your challenges (doesn't matter who with or what with) are these three Core Life (Evolution) Lessons:
Learning to Validate Yourself
Learning to Own Your Truth
Learning to Stand in Your Power
In order to learn these lessons, before we are even born we make agreements with our parents and other people in our lives, even with things like money and success, to work on these lessons.
Of course, what may have seemed like a brilliant plan at the Spirit level doesn't always translate into pleasantry when we finally get here.
That's because when we are unaware, we tend to only do our deeper healing and growth through adversity.
We need something or someone to push us, to prod us, to cause discomfort in order to have the healing and growth we came here seeking.
And the person with whom we have the greatest challenges, is at Spirit, in agreement to cause that adversity.
So your relationship with your mom is so challenging because at that Spirit level, she's providing the adversity that will lead you to your growth.
When we start to look at our life through this lens, with an eye to what are we working on, we can begin to focus our work on understanding the evolutionary pieces we wanted to master this lifetime.
And we can gain tools to learn without the need for adversity.
Then we can turn to work on healing the wounds that we took on every time we didn't learn the lesson while we were unaware.
It's important to know that there is no blame here - for anyone.
We can't know what we didn't know and everyone is basically operating from the many layers of wounding they have taken on throughout their lives.
But once you have awareness, you have a choice to stay in the past of what happened or move forward into exploring what you can learn and how you can heal.
I also have a different perspective on Forgiveness -
- in my work, it has nothing to do with the other person and everything to do with healing the wound you carry because of someone's actions.
In this work, our focus is always on ourselves, not on someone else.
But in truth, we did indeed come up with a painful way to work on our evolution.
The upside is once you have awareness, your process of healing and your life, in general, becomes softer, easier, and much more flowing.
Plus seeing your life through this lens helps you gain clarity into those relationships that challenge you most.
So, understanding what Core Life (Evolution) Lesson you are working on, particularly with regard to your Mom, is the first step to understanding why this relationship is so challenging.
Join me for my free Masterclass: The 3 Steps You Need To Heal Your Mother Wounds where I'll go more in-depth into each step.